People who are hurt, specifically in an emotional or psychological sense, tend to hurt other people.
I can think of many situations within my own life where I have been hurt emotionally by individuals who I cared about. I never understood what I did wrong to deserve such treatment but it did happen. We can’t run from these situations in life, but we can defend ourselves from others who try to hurt us.
Don’t take it personally.
Listen and Make Conclusions. (Of course, by hurling back hurtful words to them helps nobody and only increases the hurt. So, say little, listen much.)
Forgive them.
Walk away. If you cannot yourself take the hurtful venting from a hurtful person, then leave. You are not obligated to remain. You can even state to them that you are not in a position at this time to listen and then excuse yourself.
We deserve to live a life of peace, wholeness, and happiness regardless of what has occurred within our past life. I decided to let go of the past when I discovered that I was still an “able body person” designed to help other people find success within their lives. Even when I was trying to get ahead of others I always found myself encouraging people to strive for more within their lives. I just let the past be the past and decided to move on to my future…The more you begin to shake off the dust from the past the clearer you will be able to see what is presently in front of you. So take the time today to forgive yourself and those who may have hurt you in the past. Choose today not to allow your past hurts to triumph over your present life’s path.
Sometimes we hurt somebody, and we realise it only after we lose them…So let’s love each other!!
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After reviewing your web-site here, I thought I’d send along my sad sorry of woe, and a comment.
That being how I wish I had come across it sooner ! (ugh)… I recently ended a 3year relationship with a woman who was… married.
In the begining she was saying she needed time, to then inform me she wasn’t leaving him, but still wanted to remain friends. Something I found to be harder than thought.
Like you mentioned… I did let it known It wasn’t working out for me, and that it’s best we not see one-another.
However… it seems she needed to be the one who would have the last word by leading me on by saying how we needed to talk.
This resulted in me becoming over a period of time very frustrated, to the point… things got ugly between us.
I for one am someone who takes ownership for all that happens in my life. It’s just that I’m having (still) difullculties with the way she ” played ” with me, by becoming a-loof, and mean.
It’s also been rather odd how the ” Universe “, has let me come to know recently that she presently has someone new she’s playing with !… All while living this lie of hers by remaining married to this man 10years her younger, who refered to himself, to me… he was a fool, and would deal with it.
Yes… it is obvious I wouldn’t want this person back in my life ever-again, However, it still bothers me to no end how I allowed myself for so long… to be subjected to this person who is so… heartless, and able to make one believe she’s something she’s not !
That being a Good-Person, by doing what she does…
What I need is to not be so gullable, wanting to believe in those who say onething, yet do another in the future. Hopping that in time things will change !
At 53years of age… I look back and see a life that’s had me in simular situations, and know I must be doing something un-consioiusly to know this has been the case !
The longest love-ship I’ve ever had, lasted only 3years…
So… I now look for answers on how to resoulve myself of such…
Rick
Nobody’s going to come and save you, you’ve got to save yourself. Nobody’s going to give you anything. You’ve got to go out and fight for it. Nobody knows what you want except for you, and nobody will be as sorry as you if you don’t get it. She is thinking of her own interest and life, than thinking about how you feel. You should learn to let go of the past, you are keeping inside yourself too many bad thoughts and memories… Think about what goods wil come into your life, rather than thinking of what you couldn’t get…
If you want a private discussion, you can write me on my email: stella@ido-doi.com
Don’t forget – Disappointments are just God’s way of saying: “I’VE GOT SOMETHING BETTER”
Smile with me,
Stella