How To Tell When Someone Is Lying?

Sometimes we spend our time and money with people that are trying to lie to us. These are unuseful things, that don’t bring results. All methods of lie-detecting, including polygraph machines, are regularly fooled or used improperly, resulting in mistakes. A simple way to test for lying, is to measure a person’s desire to avoid a subject, which will sometimes indicate dishonesty or guilt. Honesty is at the comerstone of every relationship, whether it’s business or personal. Being aware of someone else’s true intentions is often saving you time, money, energy and headache. When you know a person’s true intent, you have the power to control the situation, or at least taking advantage of it. Often, when people want to lie, they want to seem natural, to make you believe that their behaviour is not giving any other details except the signs they want you to receive.

What’s important to learn is how to get at the message beneath the words, and how to know what people are thinking about when they don’t say what’s really on their mind.

To see if someone is lying you or not, speak with facts. We often forget how easily facts can get lost in a conversation. When people lie for many different reasons, their lying rarely benefits the person lied to. And there’s that one undeniable truth about lying. Everybody does it, but nobody likes it when it’s done to them. It takes only 2 people to make a lie become more effective, and make you believe it.

Once you realize that you’re being lied to, the best approach is to note the fact in your mind and continue with the conversation, trying to extract more information. Wait until you have all the evidence you want and then decide whether to confront the person at that time or hold off to figure out what’s his next step, so you could use this insight to your advantage.

Movements and gestures usually show that the person you’re dealing with, either is nervous about your conversation, either is calm and natural about your meeting. When people feel less secure, they tend to move in a different way than usually. This is because most of the tell-tale signs of lying are based around the fact that telling a lie is a stressful event on the body and mind – it seems humans are not built for distorting the truth, and forcing that situation has recognizable repercussions. Eye contact is the best solution to doubt if someone is lying you or not. If the person’s lying, he will make little or no eye contact.

Inconsistencies between gestures, words and emotions are great indicators. The timing of emotions is something that’s difficult to fake. When lying, people unconsciously show the guilt, the lack of confidence for what they’re saying and doing in general. Their behaviour indicates how people feel about themselves. Those who are secure and confident stand tall, with shoulders back, those who are insecure or unsure of themselves often stand hunched over, with their hands in their pockets. I’m saying now that if someone is staying with his hands in his pockets, then he’s lying to you. There are several cases and statistics that have shown that this is one of the main reactions in attempting to lie a person.

We live in a world of deception. Whether you want to play or not, you’re in the game. The only question is, do you want to win? There will probably never be a way to stop people from trying to lie to you, but at least you know that you and be ready for them when they try.